Nameless has in an exclusive interview with Mpasho said that he and his wife sit their daughter, Tumiso, down and talk about boys and relationships.
‘WE SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HER, AND, NO, I AM NOT THE TYPE OF PARENT WHO DICTATES WHO THEIR CHILD DATES.
IT’S IMPORTANT TO JUST GIVE THEM SPACE AND TRUST THEM TO DO THE RIGHT THING.
WE ARE IN A NEW ERA, BRINGING UP TUMISO HAS TAUGHT ME SO MUCH.
Nameless said he has had to loosen up a bit so as to bring up his kids in the right way.
I HAVE HAD TO LOOSEN UP AND LEARN SOMETHINGS FROM SCRATCH BECAUSE SOME OF THE THINGS WE HAD BEEN CONDITIONED TO BELIEVE WERE NOT TRUE OR EFFECTIVE.
I AM LEARNING WHAT ADOLESCENCE IS ALL ABOUT.
I AM VERY BIG ON MATTERS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, EMOTIONAL HEALTH AND I READ AS MUCH AS I CAN ON THE SAME.’
‘HONESTLY SPEAKING, WE ARE BOTH TAUGHT HOW TO HANDLE OUR EMOTIONS.
MY AIM IS TO PUSH THAT SCHOOLS SHOULD NOT FOCUS SO MUCH ON ACADEMICS YET WE DO 20% OF WHAT WE ARE TAUGHT IN REAL LIFE.
ON THE OTHER HAND WE DEAL WITH MATTERS CONCERNING EMOTIONS FOR 70-80% OUR OF OUR ENTIRE LIFE.’
‘FOR US TO MAKE SURE SHE DOES NOT MOVE AWAY FROM US, WE SIT HER DOWN AND TALK. WE HAVE SEEN IMPROVEMENT AS SHE IS OPENING UP MORE.
WE DO NOT HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS BUT WE GO THROUGH IT TOGETHER.
WE ARE NOT ALWAYS QUICK TO PUNISH BECAUSE SOMETIMES A CERTAIN BEHAVIOR MAY BE HER WAY OF SEEKING OUT OUR ATTENTION.’
In conclusion, Nameless noted,
‘BY BEATING HER YOU MAY THINK YOU ARE GAINING BUT THAT IS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE.’