Imagine thinking you have friends who will support you when things aren’t going well for you only for them to desert you the moment you need them the most.
This happened to one Kenyan gentleman who lost his job just after the 2017 General Elections and sought his friends’ help.
Instead, they avoided him and couldn’t help him when he needed their help, even after spending several times together eating nyama choma along with cold beer.
Below is his story he posted late last year to his Facebook account.
I used to work as a senior manager in a foreign owned based here in town 2017. So Last year immediately after August elections were nullified my boss comes in the office. I remember it was on September 25 morning and tells us “were are closing down today tell everyone there’s no reporting tomorrow”.
We thought it’s a joke he end up explaining due to political uncertainty they have to close down till further notice but for the next 4months. We going to be getting just something to keep ourselves moving as they decided whether they going to come back to Kenya or not…
This must be the most shocking message I have received in my life. I call my wife she thought it was a joke. Until the reality of what was ahead dawned on us… Actually that day the company T. Prado SUV that was using was taken away. I arrived home later in a matatu that’s when my wife believed.
We had to change our lifestyle as soon as possible from everything. Fast forward Me October 5days. Away. We had to leave our posh apartments and we end up somewhere in Wangige in a good house but relatively cheap.
The hardest thing was to break the news to my friends and family that I had lost my job. I never told anyone that we still getting maybe 25% of our salaries I just told them I lost my job. Basically with my wife and 2 kids that was enough to manage life for the time being. Apart from that we still had our savings.
Now the real story begins. I never thought people I called friends and family would run away from like plague… Weuuuh. My phone that was once a call after another went silent…My calls went unanswered. I even got blocked on WhatsApp by someone. In a span of one week.
I used to have a creek of friends that we used to hang around bypass every day nyama choma and one for the road every day. Guys even stopped going the joint we used to meet. I remember a friend I went to see in his office. on being told am at the reception he left the office via back door and told the sec to tell me he’s away not knowing I had seen his car on the parking lot. ..For once I thought I was dreaming.
I remember someone who refused to open his gate. Yet I had bailed him out when he was almost auctioned. To some who we could meet they could always tell stories how economy ni mbaya. Or I wait next month… To me this was an eye opener people I helped secure a job were nowhere to stand with me.
After November my boss called me and told me by February we were getting back to business. From then I just had nothing to worry.
The craziest was own family my bros who are doing well for themselves all I heard from them were empty promises my elder siz and hubby people I once housed and helped secure a job .I remember her telling me I need to go back to the village.
Forward on December when we all go for xmas in the village I call them to come pick us we had together only for them to complain they had no space in their car and we took a matatu. My own mom wouldn’t call and come and visit us like she used to. In fact when we’re there my wife and I weren’t received like we used to be received. I losing the job gossip was what the hot news among my good relatives was.
Wifey and I we could just watch everything in silence. But off course very few people about 2couples who stood with us all through they kept our children in school and more so counseled us First forward April this year I got back my job back in a senior position than I was. Calls were back. I didn’t know even got then information. I learnt the hard way. My circle I reduced it with 90%. Every day I had to sign the weekend register along kamahis and bypass like every other well doing man in this city.
These days straight to the house spend the time with wife and play with kids or drop around with them for dinner to our couple besties or for a dinner together as family. The only people that stood with me all my worst. To those men esp bypass and kamakis gang. You know your true friends the day you lose what you think you have.
Never mistake those gangs for friends.. Go back home to build your life around that That Lady and kids you hurting there .After all they are the only ones who can be with you on your worst days. Stop peer pressure .Of course I hear them say “nimekaliwa na bibi that’s why I don’t hang out anymore.
That doesn’t make me a lesser man As long as my queen and kids are happy am good no room for fake friends .I learnt my own lesson learn from me b4its too late.